rms64
11-26-2014, 09:19 PM
Ok guys - I'm a little reluctant to do this but will post anyway, as I've realized lately that internalizing some things isn't healthy. Mods, if you feel this is inappropriate I have no issue with deleting at your discretion.
First, please understand that I am not posting to elicit pity but rather, just to disclose something to a community that in some ways is a "family" of people with common interests and just a plain great group. So here goes....
In 2009, I was a happily married man - my recent bride was a beautiful girl, full of life and shine. She brought two sons to our marriage, ages 9 and 16 when we said our vows who I considered to be my own after getting to know them well through a dating period of a couple of years.
What does this have to do with Thanksgiving, you ask?
On the Sunday following Thanksgiving that year - and I'll try to be brief - her youngest son was murdered at the hands of his older brother. A terrible, tragic event that has changed my life in ways that I still don't understand and probably never will. I will spare the details, but suffice to say that this was the beginning of the end of the shine in my wife's life (understandably as she effectively lost both sons in one horrible event) and the end of our marriage soon followed.
Fast forward to today and as Thanksgiving rolls around again, I struggle with finding things to be thankful for as I can't help but think about this terrible event - and then realize that there are so many things out there that I should be thankful for - my life, my beautiful daughter who is now 26 and a smart, funny, amazing "kid" that has brought me through life in so many ways without realizing it.
My point to all of you, and take this advice for what it's worth (because you got it for free) - this Thanksgiving make it about your families, friends, the people you love - not about half off on a TV, or an Xbox, or whatever. It is these people that are the reason to be thankful - hug them, tell them you love them, eat a ton of turkey and enjoy their presence..
Again, my apologies if this is out of place or off-putting. I know we all have our tragedies and struggles - but finding the bright spots every day should be the reason we get out of bed every morning.
Thanks for listening everyone....as I said this is therapy for me in a way - and happy Thanksgiving to each and every one of you!
Best regards,
Rob
First, please understand that I am not posting to elicit pity but rather, just to disclose something to a community that in some ways is a "family" of people with common interests and just a plain great group. So here goes....
In 2009, I was a happily married man - my recent bride was a beautiful girl, full of life and shine. She brought two sons to our marriage, ages 9 and 16 when we said our vows who I considered to be my own after getting to know them well through a dating period of a couple of years.
What does this have to do with Thanksgiving, you ask?
On the Sunday following Thanksgiving that year - and I'll try to be brief - her youngest son was murdered at the hands of his older brother. A terrible, tragic event that has changed my life in ways that I still don't understand and probably never will. I will spare the details, but suffice to say that this was the beginning of the end of the shine in my wife's life (understandably as she effectively lost both sons in one horrible event) and the end of our marriage soon followed.
Fast forward to today and as Thanksgiving rolls around again, I struggle with finding things to be thankful for as I can't help but think about this terrible event - and then realize that there are so many things out there that I should be thankful for - my life, my beautiful daughter who is now 26 and a smart, funny, amazing "kid" that has brought me through life in so many ways without realizing it.
My point to all of you, and take this advice for what it's worth (because you got it for free) - this Thanksgiving make it about your families, friends, the people you love - not about half off on a TV, or an Xbox, or whatever. It is these people that are the reason to be thankful - hug them, tell them you love them, eat a ton of turkey and enjoy their presence..
Again, my apologies if this is out of place or off-putting. I know we all have our tragedies and struggles - but finding the bright spots every day should be the reason we get out of bed every morning.
Thanks for listening everyone....as I said this is therapy for me in a way - and happy Thanksgiving to each and every one of you!
Best regards,
Rob